“I don’t believe in coincidences” a successful business person once told me. “I believe in serendipity” he continued.
Do you get the feeling that you have met someone for a reason? That you were both in the same place at the same time not by randomness? Well recently, I’ve been having several occurrences where serendipity is at play and that taught me a few things about creating my own opportunities. Here are the top 6 learnings which I believe would help in creating an environment conducive to serendipity…
1) Get out there. Never miss out on an opportunity to meet someone new. No matter how tired you are, how long your day has been or whatever state of mind you are in. Meeting that person might change your life. Literally. The most boring person you meet might open up some great opportunities so put yourself out there and network.
2) Be curious. Listen often and get to know people and don’t be afraid to ask them questions. Who they really are, their values and beliefs, their interests. It is extremely powerful to know what drives each person in order to build sustainable relationships whether personal or professional.
3) Be approachable. Now I know that this is a double edge sword especially for a woman, however there is no point being a bitch just for the sake of it. Someone who approaches you might not necessarily be a pervert and even if it is the case, just be polite and pull out.
4) Don’t judge. This could be a very difficult exercise in self control and in no means am I a master at that! But judging people will limit the potential relationship and might hinder a great future collaboration. Just give everyone the benefit of the doubt, I am aware that time is precious but still, a few minutes won’t kill you.
5) Have an open mind. If people approach you with opportunities keep an open mind. Something which might seem extremely exciting might end up being unfeasible while other controversial proposals could be life changers. Always keep an open mind, everyone needs to try something new in their lives, it’s the only path to learning and progress.
6) Be confident. When you approach people know your worth. Your strengths and weaknesses and just got for it. I was recently at a conference standing on my own waiting for the conference to start and I noticed someone standing on their own next to me. Under normal circumstances, I would pick up my phone and check my e-mails. This time I decided to strike a conversation with that person. Turned out he was a vital person to meet who would eventually add a lot of value to my upcoming startup.
The point? Well life is rich and full of opportunities, you need to be out there seeking these opportunities in order to enrich your life. Meeting different people will add color to a routine life, a routine job or a bad mood. So what are you waiting for? Get out there and create your own serendipity!